Most men these days are quite selfish when it comes to sex! As long as they get their own orgasm they are usually happy, even if their partner isn’t. It’s rare for men to really engage in sex and aim to please their female partners. It would be a great thing if more men figured out how to finger a girl in a way she would enjoy. This would result in a much more intimate and loving relationship. Plus, knowing how to finger her will definitely add more excitement to your sex life.
The thing is that fingering can be a challenge, especially for men who don’t have that much experience. Well, here are a few pointers that should help you on your way to becoming a fingering master!
Tips On How To Finger A Girl Correctly
Any man who knows how to use his fingers to pleasure a girl is at a massive advantage to other guys. It’s like the Holy Grail of sex. Everyone knows that most women take a long time to reach genuine orgasm. They need proper stimulation so that they can become aroused enough to reach sexual satisfaction. So, what is the first step?
Tell your partner to drink plenty of fluids before you have sex. This will help make sure she will be very wet when you touch her. It helps her to replenish her prostatic fluid as well, which is similar to seminal fluid. However, she should not drink too much or she will end up having the urge to urinate.
A towel over the sheets would help catch the fluids if she squirts when she climaxes. Also, set the mood, lower the lighting, play some smooth music, and get her ready to enjoy it.
Take Time To Relax
Relaxing will take the pressure off the sexual act. Activities that calm both your nerves will help you both engage in each other more intensely. This is one of the basics of foreplay. Kiss her, touch her, tell her how beautiful she is and how much to want to please her. Her mind needs to be at ease and she needs to feel like she can totally trust you and let herself go.
Give Her A Clitoral Orgasm First
You should stimulate her clitoris to give her an orgasm using either your fingers or your tongue. If you use your fingers, make sure she is very wet before you start or use some lube. The first orgasm will help her get ready for you to enter her with your fingers. The reason why she will be squirting later on is because of the longer and stronger orgasms that she will have. This is a tip that’s usually overlooked in learning how to finger a girl successfully.
Stimulate Her G Spot
Stimulate her more by inserting your index finger or into her vagina and finding her G-spot. The G-spot is a slight bump on her vaginal wall about three inches inside her. You will be able to find it with your fingers once she is aroused. It’s walnut sized and has a different texture than the rest of the vagina.
You should use a backward and forward motion with your finger over this area. Press fairly hard and increase the speed as she gets into it and is enjoying herself.
Stimulate Her U-spot
You can miss this step out if you want to. Sometimes finding and touching the G-spot is hard enough to do the first time. You can always add this sexy move in another time. The U-spot is the bump on the upper portion of the vagina. If you massage this area together with the G-spot it will make her even more sexually aroused and ready for an incredible orgasm. Maybe even multiple orgasms!
When She Is Close To Coming
When she feels like she needs to pee, she is close to cumming. It’s not pee that she’s going to release but her sexual fluids. When she releases, it may squirt out and there could be a lot of it, that’s why you needed the towel! But some girls, especially if they haven’t been fingered like this before, may only release a small amount of ejaculate. That’s fine….you can always try again tomorrow night.
Hopefully these tips help you give your girl a great night and lead to a more fulfilling sex life for you both. It takes patience and practice when learning how to finger. Just take your time to learn well and you’ll be fine.